Consider the impressionable mind of the infant.
Is it fair to indoctrinate them with dogma?
Dogma:
1. a system of principles or tenets, as of a church.
2. a specific tenet or doctrine authoritatively laid down, as by a church: the dogma of the Assumption.
3. prescribed doctrine: political dogma.
4. a settled or established opinion, belief, or principle.
Is it "dogma" to teach them that they must eat and drink what is healthy to remain healthy?
Is it "dogma" to teach them that they exercise to remain healthy and become healthier?
Is it "dogma" to teach them that they must read, observe, question, develop reasoning ability and knowledge in order to grow in wisdom?
Is it "dogma" to teach them that they must work in order to support themselves?
Is it "dogma" to teach them that they should avoid what is dangerous to their lives or other's lives, or their future?
Dogma, as a settled or established opinion, belief, or principle is unavoidable in teaching a child.
Then how or why is healthy religious instruction, or dogma, "unfair" or "abusive"?
Abuse is caused by an individual incorrectly believing what is right is wrong, and what is wrong is right.
Abuse isn't unique among those proclaiming a religion.
Nor are care and kindness unique among those not doing so.
However, God has told us what is right and what is wrong in the Bible, it isn't up to us to determine that for ourselves, although we may learn that the hard way. And only healthy religion (true Christianity) teaches that through the Bible. The advantage of obeying God and teaching our children and others to do so is that we don't have to learn the hard way. True Christianity prevents abuse while encouraging and instilling kindness, care, and the other fruits of the spirit, which come from God, who is love, perfect love.
So, no, not all religion is potentially abusive, just false religion and non-religion.
BA- Avoid abuse, obey God by reading and learning from His word.